My ideal day.
When I think of that, I go through several layers of ‘ideal’…
Fantasy ideal day where I’d be in Thailand or cycling the Amalfi Coast (eating anything and everything and eyeing up the beautiful Italian men!) or in India, drinking in the country through all my senses, or in Japan, in awe of their creativity, lost amongst the sheer otherness of it all…or…
Dream ideal day where I’d be going through the motions of my normal life but transplanted to England, or…
Dream ‘real life’ ideal day where I’d actually have time to reach the surface and breathe a little before I had to delve back in to real life…or…
‘Real life’ ideal day where everything would be pretty much as it is now, but I managed to slow down that little bit more and really appreciate everything good that is happening around me.
I’m a great believer in the idea that, whatever our circumstances, we get to choose the life we live, day to day. We choose whether we’ll react positively or negatively to the things life throws at us. We choose whether we see things in a positive or a negative light and whether we allow ourselves to put a positive spin on things or not.
These choices, throughout the lengths of our lives, dictate not only how we live our lives on a daily basis but how we end up using our life.
In my ideal day, however good things are, however bad things are, wherever I might be, with whoever I might be, I’d always be looking for the good, appreciating the good when it arrives and feeling happy because of all the good that surrounds me.
This approach has not only helped me get through very very tough times, but has helped me re-train my thought patterns and processes so that, even though we’re stuck somewhere none of us wants to be, and I’m living a life I don’t want to be living, in conditions that aren’t ideal, I (we) manage to find something good in every day.
If we don’t learn from the hard times, they’re just hard times.
If, however, we take the time to do the work, look for the good, learn the lessons, then the hard times we face can actually become the greatest gifts we’ll ever receive in our lifetime.
The hard times will teach us more than any of those awesome moments we live through…and the best thing? They’ll make those awesome moments even more awesome from that point on and forever more…because we’ll have learned to truly appreciate them.
My ideal day? I’ll take waking up early, writing for a while, meditating, going for a run and feeling my body alive, connecting with Nature, cooking something delicious for my littles, laughing with them, being able to take them out for ice cream and watching them enjoy it so so much, dancing like crazy people for a while (falling over in fits of laughter kind of happy), watching them fast asleep and feeling like my heart is literally about to burst, then resting in my hammock, happy, just happy that I’m alive and at peace.
That, actually, sounds like a pretty ideal sort of day.
[P.S. The photo is by Austin Ban and used, with permission, from Unsplash. When I am able to achieve my fantasy ideal day, I will be going up in a hot air balloon and will take my own photo of one!]