An ideal day

Joining in with Day 2 of Blog-tember, where Bailey Jean invites us to describe our ideal day.


My ideal day.

When I think of that, I go through several layers of ‘ideal’…

Fantasy ideal day where I’d be in Thailand or cycling the Amalfi Coast (eating anything and everything and eyeing up the beautiful Italian men!) or in India, drinking in the country through all my senses, or in Japan, in awe of their creativity, lost amongst the sheer otherness of it all…or…

Dream ideal day where I’d be going through the motions of my normal life but transplanted to England, or…

Dream ‘real life’ ideal day where I’d actually have time to reach the surface and breathe a little before I had to delve back in to real life…or…

‘Real life’ ideal day where everything would be pretty much as it is now, but I managed to slow down that little bit more and really appreciate everything good that is happening around me.

I’m a great believer in the idea that, whatever our circumstances, we get to choose the life we live, day to day. We choose whether we’ll react positively or negatively to the things life throws at us. We choose whether we see things in a positive or a negative light and whether we allow ourselves to put a positive spin on things or not.

These choices, throughout the lengths of our lives, dictate not only how we live our lives on a daily basis but how we end up using our life.

In my ideal day, however good things are, however bad things are, wherever I might be, with whoever I might be, I’d always be looking for the good, appreciating the good when it arrives and feeling happy because of all the good that surrounds me.

This approach has not only helped me get through very very tough times, but has helped me re-train my thought patterns and processes so that, even though we’re stuck somewhere none of us wants to be, and I’m living a life I don’t want to be living, in conditions that aren’t ideal, I (we) manage to find something good in every day. 

If we don’t learn from the hard times, they’re just hard times.

If, however, we take the time to do the work, look for the good, learn the lessons, then the hard times we face can actually become the greatest gifts we’ll ever receive in our lifetime.

The hard times will teach us more than any of those awesome moments we live through…and the best thing? They’ll make those awesome moments even more awesome from that point on and forever more…because we’ll have learned to truly appreciate them.

My ideal day? I’ll take waking up early, writing for a while, meditating, going for a run and feeling my body alive, connecting with Nature, cooking something delicious for my littles, laughing with them, being able to take them out for ice cream and watching them enjoy it so so much, dancing like crazy people for a while (falling over in fits of laughter kind of happy), watching them fast asleep and feeling like my heart is literally about to burst, then resting in my hammock, happy, just happy that I’m alive and at peace. 

That, actually, sounds like a pretty ideal sort of day.

Helen xxx

[P.S. The photo is by Austin Ban and used, with permission, from Unsplash. When I am able to achieve my fantasy ideal day, I will be going up in a hot air balloon and will take my own photo of one!]


22 thoughts on “An ideal day

  1. I love how you organized this post. When I read the prompt I thought that my ideal day would change depending on where I’m at/what I’m doing, so I went for an ideal day in my daily life. The ideal day that you ended with sounds wonderful!


  2. Aubrey says:

    Riding in a hot air balloon is on my bucket list! Come to Thailand any time you like and we can eat our way through the country! This country is both tasty and beautiful so it will make for a perfect day no doubt!


    • iwillbloom says:

      Hi Aubrey, it’s absolutely on my list, too! Oh, yum, can’t imagine all the food delights! I would love to eat my way through a good chunk of it with a fellow blogger: thank you!


  3. I definitely agree with you on hard times! We should take those as learning experiences or we can drown in them. I LOVE how you broke down each type of an ideal day!


    • iwillbloom says:

      Hia, they absolutely have to be learning experiences, don’t they, otherwise, as you say, we’d drown….and goodness knows, there’s already enough things to drown in if we were to take that road!


  4. Linda says:

    I love your outlook on life, and wholeheartedly agree!! Ideal is sort of like art–in the eye of the beholder and is often found in the very simplest of things!! Here’s to more fits of laughter with your littles!!


    • iwillbloom says:

      I love when Chet Baker sings about being works of art: we’re all works of art, shaped through the motions of our lives….(helped, no end, by fits of laughter with littles!)


  5. Lizelle says:

    Oh I DO agree! Well…with your last bit about the perfect day and most of what it would be like in all your above senarios. I don’t know much about how I feel about the bad stuff enriching life thought, the jury is stubbornly still out on that one :p


  6. Liane says:

    Love this! I especially like the idea of you being in England!


  7. Barbara says:

    What a wonderful post; and love your ideal day! Not sure about mine…it was almost midnight before I finished my Day 1 post, and had to be up early to help my daughter with the kiddos, and transportation, etc. Feeling REALLY REALLY tired and over-whelmed with all of my intentions! My ideal day? Yet to be determined!

    Thanks for sharing; ;and I’ll be posting mine soon…and doing more reading!


    • iwillbloom says:

      Oh, Barbara….sounds like you need a rest. Hope you did manage to sleep well last night and are resting today….(will visit your blog over the weekend)…have a **lovely** day today!!!!


  8. Helen, I love this. All your ideal days sound like something I would truly enjoy. I especially love hammocks! And today on my (ughhhh long commute to work!!! still adjusting) drive I listened to a Ted Talk and how having more doesn’t make us happy, but being present and grateful in the moment does. It was good. oxox


    • iwillbloom says:

      Hia Heather….am v. busy but will pop across to your blog over the weekend! (Am looking forward to a long blog reading session!). Would definitely like to know which TED talk it was that you listened to: let me know!


  9. Anna S says:

    I’m with you! There were several different ways that my ideal day could go. I could travel to a faraway place or do something really luxurious, but just because it’s the most fancy, special day ever, doesn’t mean it’s more ideal the toughest days.


  10. Rachel G says:

    I completely agree with you that the definition of an ideal day changes dramatically depending on how deeply we’re delving into the ‘dreamworld’ when imagining it. I like that your fantasty dream day mentions several Asian destinations–this is definitely where my heart is, so I understand the feeling. Realistic dream day for me? Probably playing with my little sisters–coming up with kitchen concoctions together and dancing to Just Dance and talking over old family memories together while eating delicious snacks.


    • iwillbloom says:

      Hia Rachel, yes: having explored South America quite a bit (across and up and down!) I’d love to travel around Asia a bit too. (Dancing to ‘Just Dance’ is the *best* isn’t it?!)


  11. I love your visions of the Ideal, Helen. I hope they all come true.

    My ideal day, where I am now, would be one last opportunity to fight the good fight, bring hope and life to those who thought themselves doomed, and not come home myself.

    I don’t want to die in bed. I want my very own action replay of Rorke’s Drift, with a full heart. I’ve been there before. Please, God, let me go back to stay.

    I guess my path to Heaven lies through hell.

    Glad did I live, and gladly die,
    and laid me down with a will.


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