About me

I’m Helen, mother of two (my son is 9; my daughter is 6).

Single mother of two. Domestic abuse survivor. “Stuck Mum”. (You can read more about my personal story here)


Lover of life.

I’m determined, however bad things get (and they’re pretty bad!), that my children won’t be victims of their unfortunate circumstances. The statistics would say I’m an abused single mother with two children to care for: we’re therefore all destined for failure.

Forget the statistics, and say a firm ‘goodbye’ to my recent past, I say: I’m me, I’m a kick-ass fighting machine and this is not going to define us.

This is not my story, this is not our story.

This is certainly not where the story ends.

[Rock bottom means you get to live, choose and reap all over again]

What else can I say about myself?

  • I’m a courageous traveller of the breadth of life, facing some pretty dire circumstances with a smile – always with a smile – and with a jaunty spring in my step.
  • I’m a believer in the power of hope and in the power of love. As Albert Camus said, “In the midst of winter I found there was, within me, an invincible summer”.
  • I’m a lifelong learner, with a deep thirst for knowledge, on constant reflective trips deep inside myself.
  • I’m a faithful believer in the power of intuition and the force for good that is meditation.
  • I’ve knelt down in prayer once in my life – in sheer desperation, as my body and not my mind led me to it –  and God answered me. Loud and clear.
  • I believe the world would be a much better place if people could just get over themselves and learn to be kinder and more grateful
  • I’m a firm believer in the power of appreciating the little things. The little things are never so little: life’s made up of millions of little moments and if you don’t appreciate them fully, you lose out on most of the best bits of your life.

I want, more than anything, to be the light that let’s others see

(and to publish my book….but that’s a whole other story!)

Here are some ‘favourite’ posts of mine (the writing felt authentic from a place of flow):

25 thoughts on “About me

  1. Lizelle says:

    *huge hugs* He already lost girl! from the moment you decided to survive and cleave to your own self worth and fight the feeling of the end, he lost. Even if it may not feel like it yet…I’m routing for you and that family of yours like you wouldn’t believe! (A lot of this hits home for me as the daughter of a survivor but i wont go into it on here.)\\


  2. karenbethc says:

    you are BRAVE and COURAGEOUS! SO glad you found me so that I could find you! lovely blog!


  3. Britney says:

    Hey Helen, hope you are doing well!! I just wanted to let you know that I nominated you for the one lovely blog award!! Love ya


  4. I love your blog, so I nominated you for the Liebster Award! 🙂


  5. poetry joy says:

    Hello Helen, thank you so much for stopping by at ‘Words of Joy’ and leaving such sweet encouragement there! It’s lovely to meet you and read your inspiring story here. I love the Albert Camus quote and these words especially:”I want, more than anything, to be the light that let’s others see.” Amen, me too! Go girl! With God all things are possible. And you are already achieving your objective right here, right now, and around the blogosphere. May God bless you and continue to inspire and fire your writing to His praise and glory. 🙂 x


    • iwillbloom says:

      Many, many, thanks. I have your blog open in it’s own tab and am planning on sitting down later tonight and reading through at leisure…. [I was so inspired by your bravery in face of your troubles – I have fibromyalgia and whilst nothing like your health problems, I fully appreciate what less than 100% health means in practical, emotional and psychological terms]….it has been wonderful, truly wonderful, to find you through FMF and to find such inspiration in your words, your example and your creativity. Thank you.


      • poetry joy says:

        How kind and sweet of you! I am delighted we’ve ‘met’ in the blogosphere and benefited from reading one another’s work. I also have Fibromyalgia (among other things) and can fully sympathise with how you may feel at times. I hope and pray your pain isn’t too bad and you can continue to pour out your heart here. You inspire me too! Blessings to you. 🙂 x


      • iwillbloom says:

        Blessings right back at you and prayers for you xxx


  6. Liz says:

    I love this. I know quote a few single mothers. And they a.m.a.z.e. me. Whether by choice or chance. To be both parents is an incredible feat. One that you have to take on with courage and determination, but also be willing to cut yourself a break and forgive yourself (like each and every parent). So well written and thought-provoking! Thank you for sharing!! ❤


  7. Zanna says:

    Your story is an inspiration! Keep going, I’m sure you’re a wonderful Mama (and I love the sock advent calender btw)!


    • iwillbloom says:

      Many thanks for your comment: so much appreciated. I don’t think anyone would ever admit to being a great Mama, but I reflect, every day, and try to make positive changes to be that little bit better each and every day….let’s hope I am doing OK!


  8. LucyL says:

    Hi Helen, thanks for finding me, here I am on yours =)

    What a courageous woman you are and I am sure your kids love you dearly. Look forward to reading all the GOOD things that will now come your way with your past firmly behind you xx



  9. Claire says:

    Hello. I stumbled on your blog and loved it. I tried so hard to look for the comments link in your posts but couldnt find it. Perhaps because I am using my phone? Anyway, that’s why Im typing my comment here. I love the way you write. I used to be a single mom too… for almost eleven years. Then I got married again. I have a fifteen year old boy with me on earth and three angels in heaven. I’m hoping and praying for a healthy and normal baby girl who will stay with us for a long time.


  10. “I want, more than anything, to be the light that let’s others see.”

    Beautiful. So glad I found you.


  11. hafong says:

    Hi Helen, I’m visiting from Instagram. I don’t know why it took me so long to see your photos. When I did, I knew I had to read some of your words. So appreciative of where you are coming from.



    • iwillbloom says:

      Hi Lily, I’m very embarrassed that it’s taken me so long to write back to you. I thank you so much for popping over and for taking the time to leave a comment. I’m very grateful for your support (whilst I love the immediacy of IG, and the ease of it, I’ve been missing my blog….)……thanks, again – so much – for popping across. I’ll head over to your blog now to connect with you there….Helen xxx

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